Real Marriage ~ The Truth about Sex, Friendship & Life Together: written by Pastor Mark Driscoll of Mars Hill Seattle and his wife Grace, aims to define what marriage is meant to be in our day and age in light of biblical guidance and social context. Mark and Grace break up Real Marriage into three portions: Marriage, Sex, and The Last Day (application). It is apparent, through the sharing of their personal stories of struggle in marriage, that the Driscoll’s desire is to help the institution of marriage in America. Real Marriage is a refreshingly honest book full of biblical answers for the tough questions you wouldn’t dare ask your mom.
I was married in August of 2007. My beautiful bride and I had dated for a year and a half before our big day. The night before our wedding a prophetic message was spoken across the weather news waves…”If you are having an outdoor wedding tomorrow you had better move it inside.” We had plenty of help calling the 200+ that had RSVP’d and are now four and half years into our marriage relationship. Mark and Grace Driscoll begin Real Marriage with their stories. First their personal lives before marriage, then their marriage. They speak about the struggles within their marriage and how they moved on to conquer their shortcomings to enjoy the relationship as God had intended.
Mark does write from an older conservative perspective (he can sound a little prideful, which he openly admits he is working on), but it is biblical and definitely a stance that I have learned from while reading. Grace on the other hand, as her name suggests, is full of grace in her writing. They lace the book with vulnerability which makes the read easy and my heart open. As they expose their lives through an authentic voice, I noticed my own heart becoming open to learning
The sex portion of the book is beautifully writtten. In a culture that defines relationships by sex and vulgarity, Mark and Grace share the heart of God, through the scriptures, and what it means to have a meaningful sexual relationship in our society. The Driscoll’s seem to cover every topic regarding sex including those questions most would be uncomfortable asking their pastor, parents, or even friends. I found their perspective to be refreshing. They take the gamut of sexuality and run it through the Bible’s washer to show what, when, where, and how sexuality should be seen, used, and experienced in a marriage.
The Last Day:
This very short portion of the book is designed to be a practical application of the ten other chapters in Real Marriage. Mark and Grace list pages of questions that help redesign the structure of the readers marriage. I am eagerly anticipating when my wife completes this book so we can complete this portion together and find areas to improve and serve one another more wholly and become more holy.
Overall this book is wonderful. I had my reservations about Mark Driscoll from previous books/podcasts, but found this book to be full of godly wisdom and practical information. Run to your bookstore and dig into this with your spouse and find the marriage God designed for you!
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