Every once in a while someone will ask me,
“If you could give one piece of advice to someone getting married, what would it be?”
For a while my response would be, to the man, “Always say, ‘yes.'”
While this certainly is good advice that all married men could heed, it is not what I believe most couples need to hear.
This August will be my seventh wedding anniversary and the one lesson I keep on revisiting (because I have obviously not learned it yet) is to bite my tongue. More damage is done in marriages today by the tongue than we could ever know.
A little cut here, a brash remark there, and all of a sudden the person we love most has been hurt the deepest. That’s the fatal flaw of relationships: we hurt most those we love most. We know the buttons to press and the exact words to say that inflict the deepest wounds.
So to those to be married, and to those who might need a reminder, my advice would be this:
Bite your tongue. Bite it until it bleeds if necessary. Better a bleeding tongue than a devastated relationship.
New American Standard Bible
When there are many words, transgression is unavoidable, But he who restrains his lips is wise.